Why is Sunday a blur?

I keep hearing about how restful Sunday used to be. How it used to be a day of rest. But it has become a day filled with activity, most often good activity, from breakFAST, to many many hours at church, to a large meal after church, to an afternoon absorbing what someone else feels should be your thoughts for the day (tv, cable, movies, video games, social networking, ad nausium), planning for the coming week, finishing up a few tasks from the week of work, finances, emails, online purchases,. Note: I only said "most"; not all good time consumers. Sunday is so jammed with stuff, for many it is no longer restful.

We watch the clock all day, dreading Sunday night when we head for bed, knowing that as soon as our batter worn head hits the pillow Monday will be here. We head into Monday exhausted, frustrated, guilt ridden, weary, stressed, tense, feeling cheated of our "right to relax".

I am going to suggest a different approach to Sunday. Nothing novel, just different. Actually, really really old fashioned. What if you to disciplined yourself to put aside all work, all electronic devices, all media input, all hustle, prepare Sunday lunch on Saturday night (men, I'm aiming that one at you - crock pot meals are easy and wonderful after church), get to bed in time to be early for church, then just relax and let the day flow?

Please?

Here's how it looks at our house, which, by the way, is usually FILLED with noise and chaos and activity and work the entire balance of the week. It actually sort of starts Saturday morning with Saturday chores. Well, no. It starts Saturday breakfast which Michelle and I make before the kids are awake. During breakfast we stop for a VERY simple Family Devotion time. Then, it's Saturday chores until they are done, and usually a Saturday project (interpreted - work that Dad has dreamed up). The reason I took this detour through our Saturday is because I want to show that we wrap up the week by cleaning the house and rooms and kind of "reset" life from the chaos of the week. This "reset" gets us a little more ready to rest on Sunday.

After Supper on Saturday we have a "no media or electronic devices" policy. So, if you plan on hanging with us on Saturday, please hang your phone or computer outside. Note: we will not be held responsible for any wet devices. ;) Sometime before bed, I put roast stuff in the crock pot for Sunday lunch. This way we (read "Michelle") don't have to jam that in before leaving for church. I have a simple recipe if any guys want to know.

We really try to get to church 10 minutes before we are required in place for anything. Really takes the stress out of getting there. And we actually - usually - arrive with real smiles, mostly. If we're early we even take our time walking to the building.

After enjoying a less stress filled morning at church we head home, greeted by the crock pot dinner that is anxiously waiting to be consumed. Everybody helps set the table, sort of. Several of us have trouble staying focused, but then someone calls my name and I'm back in the game.

After lunch, I wash the dishes... well, at least last week I did. Then each of us is free to enjoy the afternoon. Reading, napping, walking... whatever. Just no electronic input. Not even praise and worship music. It's a day of quiet... lots of quiet. Unless of course a wrestling match explodes on the floor. We even go to bed without any electronic/media input.

I will not speak for my family here, but I have noticed that Sunday night I go to bed much more rested, less stressed, having greatly enjoyed the day of rest - rest from work, noise, electronic/media stimuli, busy-ness, frenetic activity.

My first Sunday doing this I actually was scared not to check my email or facebook. I was afraid something would come through that really needed my immediate attention. Really? I have since realized I'm not that important.

So, if you find Sunday less that peace filled and restful, I challenge you. Yes, it will scare the daylights out of you to NOT check facebook even once. And no fair sneaking into the bathroom with your phone or ipad. You will think you have become a freak. That the rest of the culture is racing into the future without you. But facebook WILL figure out how to function without you for one day. Our first Saturday/Sunday of doing this I was very scared to not check my email, check facebook, work on finances. Weirdest thing? Facebook has not been affected at all by my absence. Well, at least no one has said anything. "Hey Bruce... I noticed ALL day yesterday you didn't comment on a single thing I posted." Yeah right.

Ok, seriously. I now relish Saturday night and Sunday. Not because it's on the weekend, but because I know that my mind will get to take a break from all the normal junk that clutters it.

Just a thot...

2014-04-11

This will be the final post we make here regarding our family ministry. At the encouragement of my lovely best friend, Michelle, I will use this site as a place to, well, blog. Stay tuned. And without further rambling...

Cook's Short Order Update

We are moved!! And almost completely unpacked! A friend of ours from our church is renting a farm house to us. It's 5 bedroom, a great yard with trees, running water and indoor plumbing! We are blessed!

Seriously, it is all of the above and we are enjoying the place. There's the normal "old house" stuff: extra residents and stuff to repair, BUT, it's our new home and we really like it. We will try to get pictures of it soon. Just been way too busy... still recouping after the fire. We have guessed we are in the new "normal" now.

Pray for Bryan. He's back in West Virginia. We miss him. Pray for Nate. He is looking for full time work as his recent job did not work out. Pray Caleb as he wraps up his senior year (many hick ups that God allowed - leaving Camp David, house fire, moving twice). We pray that this time will register in his mind in years to come as a time when he learned a new level of friendship with God. Pray for Kaitie as God continues to develop her as a growing young woman of God. Pray for Seth as he continues to grow as God's man. Pray for Michelle as she seeks to reorganize the home and schooling with little time left this school year. Pray for her also as she seeks to get her business, Simply Homespun In Missouri back up after the fire. Pray for Bruce as he seeks to be a godly leader for the family and an asset at work.

We have a friend who senses God is leading them into full time ministry using their skills - medical and criminal justice. Please, if you know of any needs get in touch with Rick and Melinda Rathbun at melindarathbun@gmail.com.

And a final note; could we ask a favor? If you have pictures of us pre-2005, we would be grateful for copies, digital or otherwise. We are slowly trying to collect thousands of prints we lost in the fire.

Gratefully serving with you,
Bruce, Michelle, Bryan, Nate, Caleb, Kaitie, and Seth

Time to move

Cook's Short Order Update

Time is moving about the same speed it always has, like it or not. However, the last few days/weeks have seemed like a blur. We won’t bore you with the details except to say that we should be moving the end of this week.

According to whoever decides these things, our future landlord will be closing on “our” house this Friday. We are excited! We plan to sleep in the house Friday night. We shall see.

Last Thursday, it was so beautiful out that we took a picnic to a nearby lake and, well, enjoyed. When Seth jumped out of the van he jumped up on a boulder, took a deep breath, and with his arms stretched out yelled out, “Freedom!” We have so appreciated the apartments made available for us, but we will be so glad to move back to the country. This time just a few minutes from church.

We have appreciated the many ways many have expressed so much love and care and kindness. Thank you! We still have so much to care for since the fire. We would appreciate your prayer as we work through listing the contents and other details. By God’s grace, we are doing well and growing.

Gratefully serving with you,
Bruce, Michelle, Bryan, Nate, Caleb, Kaitie, and Seth

26 on the horizon

Number 26 is on the horizon. The other day I tried to count all the houses I remember living in since I was born. Course, I could be off by a couple. To my best knowledge, the apartment we are living in now is my 25th home.

After our house fire, Pastor David mentioned to our church family that we need a place to rent. A person heard the comment and was currently in the process of looking at and possibly purchasing a place to rent.

To make a long story short, he wanted to find a good family to rent to, and we are a family that needs a place to stay. God has some details to work out but it looks like 2 weeks from now (or so) we will move to [my] house number 26, AND God has provided so many more things. It's in the country, it has 5 bedrooms, Bunker will get to rejoin us, we can have a garden this summer, plenty of place to play and roam, really a nice place to call home.

Could we ask for one big thing for you to pray about? Closing for our future Landlord is around March 14. He and we would like to wrap this up sooner. Could you pray that if God will be honored that he could close much sooner and we could move much sooner? We have very little to move and are ready. We will have pictures and details as soon as things are final and we move.

Thank you so much for bathing us in prayer during the past weeks/months. We can feel it often. We love you!

Gratefully serving with you,
Bruce, Michelle, Bryan, Nate, Caleb, Kaitie, and Seth

2014-02-16

Cook's Short Order Update

Would it be weird to start an update letter following a total-loss house fire, "It's been pleasant"? Ok, "pleasant" may be over simplifying, but it hasn't been a horrifying experience. Tough, scary, but not horrifying.

Since our home burned to the ground, with 98% of our worldly possessions in it, just over 3 weeks ago, we have experienced many ups and downs, some strong emotions, some peaceful days. But what we haven't experienced is the emotion draining stuff that normally follows trauma.

Please understand, there are 7 in our family, and each of us is interacting with this event differently. One might choose to not talk about things. Another chooses to talk very freely about emotions or struggles or disturbing dreams. Please pray for Dad and Mom as we seek to listen and help each precious gift process through thoughts and struggles and growth. Don't forget, even though Bryan is not living with us, this has affected him as well.

We are working on many many things, building the new life God has put in front of us. Two big hurdles to cross are 1) Finding a place to rent/buy and 2) Itemizing our home's contents (this will be difficult, to say the least, as we think through specific things that are gone).

Many of you have asked, "How can we help? What do you need?" We want to say, "Everything." But that could be dangerous. We don't have that much space :), and we don't want to move it all when God provides a more permanent place. So, for now, we are sticking with just the basics to get through the next few weeks. When God provides a home for us to call "home," for whatever length of time He gives it to us, we will begin posting more specific things that will help us continue serving Him.

As always, prayer is the most needed thing. We have sensed this going on so much as we have navigated the past 3 weeks.

To God be the glory!! Hallelujah! What an AWESOME God and Savior!

Gratefully serving with you,
Bruce, Michelle, Bryan, Nate, Caleb, Kaitie, and Seth

Donations Update

We are overwhelmed with God’s goodness, care, graciousness, kindness, and generosity He is showing us through you all. We have been busy since the fire fielding phone calls, sorting through donations, and accepting people smothering us with love. So many of you are asking, “What can we do to help?” Or, “If you need anything, let us know.”

The truth is, we are just beginning to figure out what we may or may not need. As much as we dislike taking this approach we will begin posting “specific” things that will be helpful. Here are a few ideas that have already been suggested to us. We are not implying that anyone who reads this should do this. Just passing along information.

Gift cards for Walmart, Kohls, Payless Shoes, etc.
There is a savings account opened for us at The Bank of Salem, MO.
Donation page has been begun for us on Facebook. Not aware of where to locate it.
If you live in Rolla, Jim and Tina Balch have offered their home as a collection site.
Please ask sizes before bringing more clothing. We are sorting through piles of blessings right now. Some of us have more than enough blessings to wear, while others are still in need.

To each of you, Thank you! You are wonderful!

Merry Christmas

In the interest of staying off the computer and with each other tonight and tomorrow...

Merry Christmas!

It was really cold and snowing last night, and we walked around for almost an hour before this picture. We're all shivering.

We will pray at lunch today that your Christmas will be war , safe, and full of wonder of the gift of salvation offered to us.

Thank you for being our faithful firends and partners. We appreciate you.